YOU'LL DO: A History of Marrying for Reasons Other Than Love

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Join us for an illuminating and thought-provoking in-person conversation with author Marcia A. Zug on the uniquely American institution of marriage, from the Colonial era through the #MeToo age, explored in her new book, YOU'LL DO: A History of Marrying for Reasons Other Than Love. In observation of Women's History Month, we'll also discuss how this practice intersects with segregation, discrimination, poverty, and women's rights.

Through revealing storytelling, Zug builds a compelling case that when marriage is touted as “the solution” to such problems, it absolves the government, and society, of the responsibility for directly addressing them.

Just a few of the many unromantic reasons for marrying included in the book are:

  • In eras of slavery and segregation, Blacks sometimes gained white legal status through marriage.
  • As late as the Great Depression, poor young women were encouraged to marry aged Civil War veterans for lifetime pensions.
  • One of the most persuasive arguments against women's right to vote was that marrying and influencing their husband's choices was just as meaningful, if not better.

About the Book:

"YOU'LL DO: A History of Marrying for Reasons Other Than Love takes a deep dive into the unromantic, but much more common than most would like to think, reasons for marrying throughout history. Americans hold marriage in such high esteem that we push people toward it, reward them for taking part in it, and fetishize its benefits to the point that we routinely ignore or excuse bad behavior and societal ills in the name of protecting and promoting it.

Laws have been designed to encourage people to marry so that certain societal benefits could be achieved: the population would increase, women would have financial security, children would be cared for, and immigrants would have familial connections.

The widely overlooked problem with this tradition is that individuals and society have relied on marriage to address or dismiss a range of injustices and inequities, from gender- and race-based discrimination, sexual violence, and predation to unequal financial treatment."—Marcia A. Zug

About the Author:

Marcia Zug is a family law professor at the University of South Carolina School of Law. She is a graduate of Dartmouth College and Yale Law School. Her previous book, Buying A Bride, explored the history of mail-order marriage in the United States. She lives in Columbia, SC with her husband and two daughters.

Books will be available for purchase and signing at this free event. Books may be purchased for $25 by cash ($4.95 less than MSRP!), check, or credit. Proceeds from all book sales will benefit the library.


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